Under normal circumstances, if the girl you are chasing has clearly expressed her rejection, many boys will choose to give up. But some people will choose to continue pursuing a girl when she explicitly refuses. What is the reason?
Girls often say: I hope that the person who pursues me is very dedicated and only has eyes for me. Girls, what you want is that "the person I like also pursues me." "Very dedicated", that's a romantic movie; if someone you don't like chases you but is also very dedicated, that's a horror movie.
If a boy is not very good with the opposite sex, has few friends of the opposite sex in his daily life, and does not like to socialize, and by chance he meets a girl he likes, what will be the consequences?
He will definitely try his best to pursue that girl, because that is his only hope.
So I often advise boys and girls around me: before you decide to like someone wholeheartedly, can you first get to know other people of the opposite sex? Can you make a few comparisons? Tell me objectively that this person is indeed a good person, instead of just saying "This person is good at everything" every time you ask?
You have only been in love a few times, so you are qualified to say that you are Are you sure this person is the love of your life?
We all feel dejected when we are rejected by the person we like, but some people go a little further: they think that as long as they are rejected, it means that they are certain. Without value, you are no good at anything.
So for them, they must get this person, because only by getting this person can they prove that they are not poor, ugly and If you are fat, it is not that you will never be loved by anyone - so they become impatient and get ahead of themselves, because in their eyes, rejection from the person they like is a complete denial of themselves.
Do you have this kind of person in your life? It is obvious that you are dealing with him over things and not people, but when he is there, he insists on "dealing with people as well as things" with you:
What do you mean? You said I didn’t do this well, do you think I’m a waste? Do you look down on me? Why are there other people who can’t do it well, and you just criticize me? Are you targeting me? ?——If you put this attitude towards pursuing someone you like, you will understand why they are impatient.
How many times have I said it, and I have to say it again: If a person doesn’t like you, it only means that she doesn’t like you, and it can’t mean anything else.
But there will always be people who don’t listen, so they will fight with that person wholeheartedly, just to catch that person in the end. Prove your worth.
So in my opinion, aOnce things develop to the level mentioned in the title, it's no longer about liking, it's about being superior.
Your performance is too captivating, you live completely in your own world; your focus on gains and losses is too heavy, you cannot lose this last life-saving straw; you are too sensitive, so that you are impatient, He wants to prove his worth like crazy.
That’s why you are determined to like someone who doesn’t like you at all.
