A relationship does not last longer the harder you work, and loving too much may be counterproductive. Most of the excessive love is actually a manifestation of fear of loss.
If you are afraid of losing a girl, you will try your best to give. Being carried away by love can easily lead you to be willing to give up your life, career and future, and put all the focus of your life on the other person.
Blindly giving will make you subconsciously ask for more from the other party. "I've been so good to you, you must also be good to me." So in this relationship, you become worried about gains and losses, anxious and sensitive.
What’s even more frightening is that when she is the only person in your world, you will become paranoid and possessive, not allowing her to have contact with the opposite sex, and involuntarily restricting the other person’s freedom. You will be jealous, suspicious, and crazy. In the end, your love will not be love, but a disguised form of hurt, which will wear away your relationship indefinitely.
With all due respect, the so-called love that is too full is actually the cheapest thing in love.
The basis for maintaining a relationship between the sexes is that one or more values ??in you can cause long-term attraction to your partner. There are many such values, such as career, emotional value, aesthetic value, cognitive value, etc.
And when you only rely on "I am too good to a person" to maintain a relationship, this also proves that "you cannot keep the other person based on other values", and you can only rely on the most basic and cheapest way to attract the other person.
Why is it said that "being good to a person" is the cheapest thing?
Because of this value, there are Too many people can do it, and the substitutability is too strong. It's like an admission ticket. Being nice to someone only means that "you are qualified to participate in this competition", but it does not mean that you can get high scores with the admission ticket.
What is your high score? External image, inner thought experience, objective material conditions, subjective emotional interaction, these are your bonus points. You can only improve on the bonus points The more points you get, the higher your love score will be.
After all, people often fail to learn to cherish things that are too easy to obtain.
